At 37 weeks 2 days, I had a cervix exam and strep test. 45 minutes after I kept having irregular contractions and i was bleeding. The blood was light and a brown pink color. Everyone said I wasn’t in labor and to calm down. It continued to go on and I woke up in pain every time I tried to sleep. October 1st, 2013 I woke up at 7:30am in terrible pain. I called the OBGYN and they told me to come to the Hospital just to check but it was probably nothing. My parents said there was no reason to take me and that I was just uncomfortable from being pregnant but they would take me if I really wanted to go. We went and the Doctor checked my cervix. I was 4cm dilated and 70% effaced, Then she checked the blood coming from my vagina under a microscope. My water was leaking and the doctor had to put me on Pitocin, which I didn’t want but it had to be done, and break my water the rest of the way with this little hook. Because of the unknown results of my strep test I had to be given antibiotics. I’m allergic to penicillin so they gave me Vancomycin…within minutes I started to itch everywhere so I was given a saline flush and Benadryl and the Antibiotics were stopped. Well Within 4 hours I went from 4cm dilated to 9.5cm dilated. It took 20 minutes to push my son out. The contractions weren’t as bad as people say they are but I had bad back labor. I went completely natural. No epidural. I had so much continuous fluid leakage I thought I was peeing myself. After was son was born I quickly started to hemorrhage. They placed my son on my chest and I started dosing in and out as they stopped the bleeding and sewed up the small tear in my perineum. After I was conscious I noticed how heavy my son was. All the doctors said he would be 5lbs or 6lbs…He was 7lbs 13oz and 21in long. His lip was quivering and I just held his little body on my chest as they cleaned him up. He was beautiful and He loved me. After he was born I was shaking really bad from blood loss. My hemoglobin went from a 12 to a 7 and I was given blood transfusion. It brought me back up to a 9. The next day I could go home…So I thought…
“A baby will make love stronger, days shorter, nights longer, bankroll smaller, home happier, clothes shabbier, the past forgotten, and the future worth living for.” -Pablo Picasso.
I have a lot of people ask me what religion I will raise my child.
My answer? I won’t.
I don’t believe in organized religion but I believe you can have a belief without being judged for it.
I believe in God, but does my child have to?
No. He will figure out what he believes on his own the same way I did. It is more genuine that way. He shouldn’t believe in something because I tell him that is what I believe. He can be Pastafarian for all I care. As long as he figures out his beliefs himself and is happy, that’s all that matters. I’ll support him through any belief he chooses and I’ll even help him try out different beliefs. It’ll be hard and confusing for him at first, but in the end he will thank me for it.
What is a “Crunchy Parent” anyway?!
Urban Dictionary’s definition…
Mother who supports homebirth, breastfeeding, baby wearing, cloth diapering, co-sleeping, gentle discipline, etc. One who questions established medical authority; tends to be vegetarian and/or prepare all-organic foods. See crunchy and hippie.
That crunchy mama is breastfeeding in public again!
Well… I guess how “Crunchy” you are falls on different levels of what you do.
I support any woman’s parenting skills unless it is harming a child Emotionally, Physically, or Sexually.
If all parents were to parent our children the same, our children would be born with instruction manuals. All parents and all children are different. What works for you might not be best for other families.
Right now, I am 29 weeks, 6 days Pregnant.
This is my first child.
The only experience I have with “parenting” is that I’m qualified to work in a child care center and I’ve been a nanny for multiple families and have friends who have children.
But as far as my opinions and how Crunchy I am, these are my opinions.
Here are topics that make people “Crunchy.”
Under the topic is my opinion and if I use it or not.
- Veganism vs. Vegetarianism Vs. Omnivore.
I support Veganism, but I am not Vegan. I used to be vegetarian. I am not anymore because I had to move back in with my parents who do not support it. Both my current boyfriend and I would like to go mostly vegan when I move out and when he is out of college. Unfortunately living Vegan is more expensive than our “Ramen Noodle Every Night” Budget can afford.
- “Poo Free Life.”
I try to use mostly organic soaps. Unfortunately my parents buy my shampoo so I’m not allowed to be terribly picky. I still shampoo my hair and I shave and cut my hair. I shampoo my hair once a week and that works for me. Body hair grosses me out, and I’m OCD about how I cut my hair.
- Home Birth Vs. Hospital Birth.
I am having a Hospital birth when I give birth to my son. Though I fully support Home Birth’s, It is just not for me. I’ve had a few complications this pregnancy and a hospital just works for me this time. I also live with my parents who do not support home births. Home births are often calmer and have fewer interventions. A lot of hospitals force interventions upon mothers to speed up delivery that normally end up in a c-section or forceps use which is risky and not as healthy for you and you baby. I am also against non-emergency intervention.
- Natural Birth Vs. Epidural
I am having a natural birth. Although I would never judge a mother for getting an epidural, I personally do not support them. Unfortunately when you give birth it is painful. Sorry Momma’s! Well even well it’s painful you need your pelvic muscles, that an epidural takes feeling out of, to turn your baby into a position that’s easiest for your baby to be delivered safely. An epidural is also very risky. If done wrong it can cause permanent Paralysis from your pelvis down. Many woman I know who have had an epidural also have multiple back problems from it. Although, being pregnant puts much strain on your back, an epidural can make it much worse. So I will not be getting an epidural.
- Breast Feeding vs. Bottle Feeding.
I’m a proud supporter of breast feeding and intend on breast feeding. I understand some parents can not breast feed though and formula is fine as well. I hate when people don’t agree with public breast feeding or want a mother to sit in a nasty restroom or cover their child with a blanket to breast feed. There is nothing Sexual about feeding your child. You think that child won’t scream and throw a fit while you try to put a blanket over his or her head? Good luck with that one. People just need to stop being ignorant. It’s feeding a child, not pornography. We don’t cover cows or stick cows in a restroom when they feed their offspring or us for that matter.
I support is thoroughly. Its good bonding for you and your child. It helps your child gain proper body functions like temperature control, proper breathing, and a sturdy proper heartbeat. It’s also easier from breast feeding moms. Its promotes a more restful sleep for both you and your child. I personally can not co-sleep because I live with my parents who again, do not support it. The reason for this one, My parents had a daughter before me who died of SIDS very young.
- Cloth Diapering Vs. Disposable Diapering.
Power to you mommies who can use a cloth diaper but I don’t have time for cloth diapering. I’m sure its much economically friendly and environmentally safer, but I’m gonna stick to disposables for now.
I do not want to vaccinate my child but i’m not really sure on how not to. Especially with my parents who want him vaccinated. Although my boyfriend is not my baby’s biological father, he is not vaccinated and doesn’t support vaccinations either.
- Home vs Public vs Private vs Charter Schooling.
I would love to home school or send my son to Private School. I hate Public schools, But Unfortunately I’m a Single Parent and can’t afford either. But If I had the money it would depend on what my son wanted to do.
- Baby Piercing
If I had a girl, I’d pierce her ears at 3 months old. All girls want their ears pierced. It’s also faster and easier for them to heal at that age. Unfortunately they have to use a gun and not a needle though which is a blunt object piercing through the skin. It’s not as healthy.
I plan on circumcising my son. It prevents infection and honestly I feel it will make him and his spouse’s sex life better when he is an adult. Personal preference.
I don’t believe in spankings per say but I believe in a pop in the butt or the hand.
- Baby Wearing.
I support it. No idea how to even do it. LOL.
- Cry it out Method.
I support it as long as the child doesn’t actually need something. Babies just cry sometimes. If you pick them up every time they cry you’ll be stressed out and tired.
Well There you go. You decide if I’m a “Crunchy Mommy.”
“The day the child realizes that all adults are imperfect, he becomes an adolescent; the day he forgives them, he becomes an adult; the day he forgives himself, he becomes wise” – Alden Nowlan.